“We now begin to see love as intelligible and malleable. We will be able to shift from an obsession with the FALL part of love to the MAKE aspect of love, and make this more than sexual connection. We can develop confidence in our ability to work with and mold our most precious love relationships. This changes everything!”

Dr. Sue Johnson

Love is a Dance

love is a dance

 

There are only so many dances in a love relationship.

The happier we are, the more fluid and varied the dance with our partner is. We feel safe together so we improvise and play.

But do you notice that, when we fight, the dance is always the same? It is narrow – small – not many moves. We feel like we have no options. The negative pattern takes over the relationship.

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A Quiet Revolution

 

A quiet revolution has happened over the last 15 years – a revolution that we all need to know about. A revolution that – at last- makes sense of romantic love.

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Possible to Fight Fair?

 

 

Fights are the times when our relationships with those we love come into sharp focus and hit us right between the eyes, so to speak.  They are not fun!  And lots of couples seek help simply to stop escalating the arguments. So when couples argue, what works and what doesn’t work? (more…)

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